Q.A reader writes, “A new woman at the office, after a couple of weeks, showed some signs of interest in me, such as touching me while talking, and she hinted that we could go out sometime. (she was hitting on me from the beginning).
Then she gave me her email address (although I did not ask for it). Then she asked me for my phone number and told me that she asked for the phone number of other colleagues as well (mostly women). She’s the sort of social woman that talks a lot and gets to know people easily.
My question is, if a girl asks you for your phone number, is it okay to ask her for her phone number as well? Also, are these signs that if I asked her out, she won’t reject?
So far, she seems interested. All I want to do is avoid making a big mistake. My point is, she is hinting indirectly to me about this “going out” thing (Friday she asked me if I was interested in shopping).
Friday at work, she showed me an ad in the newspaper for a show or concert and then she wrote down the phone number and details on a piece of paper and gave it to me, and told me if I want to go I can call the number and make a reservation (for myself only). She mentioned that she was going to that show.
My point is, she did not mention the word “We”, so for me, that is a bit confusing or indirect. Actually, I am not interested in this show at all, and if I will go, it will be only to see her.
If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Before making the reservation, would you be direct and ask her if you are going to see her there? Remember, she gave me the phone number to make a reservation for myself only.
Finally, if she touches me occasionally, is it okay for me to touch her as well to show that I am also interested?”
A.This Woman is giving you all kinds of signals that she likes you. You are on a roll.
Harassment cases do happen, but you should not have any problem with that here… simply print out your question that you wrote and keep it for a while, just to be safe…. you will have a published, public record of the accounts BEFORE she files suit, if that worse case scenario ever were to happen.
How many people are going to be at this show? If there are not to many people and you are sure she will see you at the concert, I would go. Women love what they see over and over again, especially when from afar where the guy can’t open his mouth and say something stupid! Why do you think women get crushes on rock stars, actors, and the attractive guy sitting in the front row of class? Do you smell what I’m cooking?
The problem with deciphering touching is that some woman touch you because they think you are special and they like you. However, some girls are affectionate and like to touch just about everybody. Watch to see if she touches others at work to determine what kind of girl she is, and whether or not she is treating you special.
Ask her for her telephone number the next time you see her. Then, call her two weeks from the time she first started making eyes at you, and ask her out on a date.
If a woman asks you for your number, always ask for hers in return. Some girls are control freaks, and will not give you their number. You want to weed those bad girls out. Additionally, exchanging numbers when she shows that much interest is the natural thing to do.